Happiness

[SUMAN-SAJAN]

People everywhere in quest of happiness outside themselves , discover in the end that they have been seeking it in an empty cornucopia and sucking feverishly at the *** of a crystal glass into which was never poured the wine of joy.

[Suvash]

happiness... hey suman, that was very philosophical!!! and very very true.... people search happiness and joy everywhere else but they miss themselves.. happiness comes from the heart.... not from the materialistic world... but then its not that easy... had i known how to remain happy, i would never have been so sad! however i try to remain happy.... and after all thats the most we can do!

[flirt]

"Happiness is that when you happy in Sadness"---Flirt

[SUMAN-SAJAN]

To become happy u should never turn back and believe that an hour u remember is a better hour because it is dead .{though there are many things to learn from past**

Passed years seem safe ones, vanquished ones,while the future lives in a cloud , formidable from a distance. :***:

The cloud clears as u enter it .

[Mati]

Yes,
The happiness differs from person to person regarding what are the triggers!!! I find myself different too but there are some which are common and uniform for most of the people if not all.

I found the BMJ Editorial very much compatible and coherent with my thinking of happiness. In fact, it is one of the very good article I found. This was written by Tony Delamothe, BMJ Deputy Editor in
BMJ 2005;331:1489-1490 (24 December), doi:10.1136/bmj.331.7531.1489

the link: Happiness -- Delamothe 331 (7531): 1489 -- BMJ

The fulltext:

Editorial
Happiness

Get happy—it's good for you

Given the choice between winning the lottery and being left permanently disabled by injury, everyone would take the money. Yet a year after either of these events, people apparently return to their previous levels of happiness.1 Such are the complexities of the state described by Aristotle as "the best, the finest, the most pleasurable thing of all." 2

As everyone since Midas knows, acquiring riches is a poor long term bet in the happiness stakes. A recent review concluded that "money can buy you happiness, but not much, and above a modest threshold, more money does not mean more happiness."3 Individuals usually get richer during their lifetimes—but not happier.

As for individuals, so for countries. Ghana, Mexico, Sweden, the United Kingdom, and the United States all share similar life satisfaction scores despite per capita income varying 10-fold between the richest and poorest country.2 Per capita incomes have quadrupled in most advanced economies over the past 50 years, but levels of subjective wellbeing have hardly budged.3

Researchers believe that it's relative income, rather than absolute income, that matters to people. However well we're doing, there's always someone else doing better. The pleasure of paying off the mortgage on one's modest abode is neutralised by news that a 19 year old footballer is erecting a neo-Georgian mansion, complete with indoor swimming pool, three car garage, and cinema. As we realise one set of aspirations, it seems we immediately trade up to a more expensive set, to which we transfer our hopes for happiness. As Samuel Johnson noted: "Life is a progress from want to want, not from enjoyment to enjoyment."

If money doesn't buy happiness, what does? In all 44 countries surveyed in 2002 by the Pew Research Center, family life provided the greatest source of satisfaction. Married people live on average three years longer and enjoy greater physical and psychological health than the unmarried. Having a family enhances wellbeing, and spending more time with one's family helps even more—as many British politicians can attest.3 4 Economists define "social capital" as the ties that bind families, neighbourhoods, workplaces, communities, and religious groups together and find that it correlates strongly with subjective wellbeing. In fact, the breadth and depth of individuals' social connections are the best predictors of their happiness.3

Work is central to wellbeing, and certain features correlate highly with happiness. These include autonomy over how, where, and at what pace work is done; trust between employer and employee; procedural fairness; and participation in decision making.5 (These features won't surprise unhappy doctors.) Nationally, the more that governments recognise individual preferences, the happier their citizens will be. Choice, and citizens' belief that they can affect the political process, increase subjective wellbeing.6

What's so great about being happy, other than, well, being happy? At the country level, evidence exists for an association between unhappiness and poor health: people from the former Soviet Union are among the unhappiest in the world,2 and their life expectancy has been falling.7 But how good is the evidence for the opposite—that happiness contributes to good health, or a longer life? An intriguing longitudinal study of nuns, spanning seven decades, supports this hypothesis. Auto-biographies written by the nuns in their early 20s were scored for positive and negative emotions. Nuns expressing the most positive emotions lived on average 10 years longer than those expressing the least positive emotions.8 Summarising this work, Barbara Fredrickson cites three more studies that, after the usual confounders had been accounted for, "found the same solid link between feeling good and living longer."9 Happiness therefore seems to add years to life, as well as life to years.

What must I do to be happy? Allow the brief moment of introspection precipitated by this editorial to pass, then stop thinking about yourself. Armed with psychologist Oliver James's injunction to "be happy with what you've got,"10 look outwards—not to compare yourself unfavourably with others, but to develop your relationships with them. It's a surer route to happiness than the pursuit of wealth.


Happy lives

* The pleasant life—where you experience a succession of pleasures that lose their effect with repetition
* The good life—where you play to your strengths and are "engaged"
* The meaningful life—where you put your strengths at the service of something higher than yourself


Embark on a loving relationship with another adult, and work hard to sustain it. Plan frequent interactions with friends, family, and neighbours (in that order). 3 Make sure you're not working so hard that you've no time left for personal relationships and leisure. If you are, leave your job voluntarily to become self employed, but don't get sacked—that's more damaging to wellbeing than the loss of a spouse, and its effects last longer. In your spare time, join a club, volunteer for community service, or take up religion.

Urge the government to follow the lead of the King of Bhutan, who announced that his nation's objective would be the gross national happiness. Cite in support Richard Layard's Happiness: Lessons from a New Science, which argues that happiness should become the goal of public policy and that the progress of national happiness should be measured and analysed as closely as the growth of gross national product. "It is self evident that the best society is the happiest," wrote economist Layard, echoing Jeremy Bentham 200 years ago. "This means that public policy should be judged by how it increases human happiness and reduces human misery."11

Once embarked on this life enhancing activism, be reassured by Martin Seligman's delineation of the three sorts of happy lives (box).12 The leader of the positive psychology movement reports that life satisfaction correlates with engagement and meaningfulness but not with pleasure. And remember whenever you're wished a Happy New Year that much of the responsibility for it rests with you.

Tony Delamothe, deputy editor

BMJ, London WC1H 9JR

I'm sure, you will find this good.
Happy reading!

Best wishes,
mati

[SUMAN-SAJAN]

ANI DO U KNOW 1 THING ,
NO ONE CAN MAKE U HAPPY EXCEPT URSELF.

SO ALWAYS BE HAPPY.


SUMAN
KMC

[Mati]

Dear Suman,

Yes you are right that its we who should be happy but you know there are triggers of happiness in life.

And you know, I believe in "concept of RECEPTOR" as well......for the sake of fun and just a stuff but I'm sure it is logical. Different people have different sorts of receptors that bind specifically to certain things with variable affinity and stimulates happiness... he he he...!

Anyway, happiness is the something everybody on earth is trying.

Be happy, make happy!


Best wishes,
mati

[Suvash]

Happiness seems to add years to life, as well as life to years.

Given the choice between winning the lottery and being left permanently disabled by injury, everyone would take the money. Yet a year after either of these events, people apparently return to their previous levels of happiness.

Researchers believe that it's relative income, rather than absolute income, that matters to people. However well we're doing, there's always someone else doing better.

those are the real bare truths either we dont know or do not care much about even knowing them..
happiness is relative income, so however well we re doing, thereis always someone else doing better.... so, better we dont compare with others!!!

and i really appreciate the way the editor has tried to correlate happiness with the development and economic status of the countries.... people of developed countries lead a far more luxurious and well off life but are they happier than those of the least developed countries? perhaps not!!! so, i agree its not the economic status that determines the happiness but something else... i think its the way how people react to and see the comforts they are having in their life that matters the most.... the well off people might find their cars uncomfortable while people in our villages consider a bullock cart ride a great pleasure...... so, thats how things are!! very very difficult to understand..
especially the abstract things!!! i just wonder when will the mystery of happiness be disclosed....