Why do we fail to take ACTION!!

[URMILA]

U Know !!!
We Human R The Only One Who Know About His Existence In This World,what Is His Need,how Can He Fulfill,wat Is To Be Done N Wat Not.....however,we Often Make Mistakes Knowingly N We Even Dare To Do Wat Is Not To Be Done.why We Do So..does Anybody Know???
Coz We Follow The Command Of Our Heart Rather Than Our Mind...
Just Think For A While Our Mind Always Teaches Us Right Things N Our Heart Is So Sensitive That It Always Go With Our Feelings So Sometimes It Direct Us In Wrong Directrion...
Let's Take Example:if U Like Smoking....u're Mind Says That It's A Bad Habit But U're Heart Says U Like To Smoke Now If U Follow U're Mind, U Will Be Able To Choose Right Thing But If U Go With U're Heart U Just Get Trapped...similarly,u R Having U're Exams.u're Mind Says U Have To Study But U're Heart Feels Not Like Reading..same Thing If U Go With U're Heart U Will Fail N If U Go Wioth U're Mind U Get Success.think About Other Examples U Will Get Loads.....
Urmila Rai
Kathmandu Medical College..

Nice point made there URMILA, our heart takes aways the self-discipline from us, and once that happens , we do the things which isn't right for us!
I would be happy to get more views on anything related to human behaviour and experiences ,which drives us to become a better human.

Sushant-passion

Time means life for a doctor. Here, I collected an excerpt from 'Awaken the giant within' of Tony Robbins. He really offers very practical advices on time mastery.Here it goes-

"If you have ever felt stress -and who hasn't? -Chances are excellent that it's because you felt you just didn't have enough time to do what you wanted to at the level of quality to which you were committed. You could be feeling this frustation,for example , because you're focusing exclusively on the demands of the moment: present requests, presents challenges, present events. In this stressed and overloaded state, your effectiveness is rapidly diminished. The solution is simple: Take control of the time frame you are focusing upon. If the present is stressful, then become more resourceful in dealing with your challenges by focusing on the future and the successful completion or resolution of the tasks before you. This new focus will instantly change your state and give you the very resources you need to turn things around in the present.
Stress is so often the result of feeling "stuck" in a particular time frame. One example of this is when a person keeps thinking of their future in disempowering ways. You can help this person or yourself by getting them to refocus on what they can control in their present. Or some people, when they are called upon to take on a challenge, begin to focus exclusively on their past poor performance. As they remain in the past, their stress increases. A shift to the present, or an anticipation of a positive future, could instantly change their emotional state. Our emotions, then, are powerfully impacted by the time frame in which we are operating at the moment.
So often we forget that time is a mental construct, that it is completely relative, and that our experience of time is almost exclusively the result of our mental focus. How long is a long time for example? It all depends on the situation, doesn't it? Standing in line for more than 10 minutes can seem like eternity, while an hour of making love can pass all too quickly.
Our beliefs also filter our perception of time. For some people, regardless of the situation, twenty minutes is a lifetime. For others, a long time is a century. Can you imagine how these people walk differently, talk differently, look at their goals differently, and how stressed they might be if they are trying to deal with one another while operating out of completely different frames of reference? This is why time mastery is a life skill. The ability to flex your experience of time is the ability to shape your experience of life."
Let's briefly review three time saving tips.

1.THE ABILITY TO DISTORT TIME
After you've mastered the ability to change the time frame by changing your focus, you are ready to move on to the second major skill of time mastery, and that is the ability to distort time so that a minute feels like an hour, or an hour like a minute. Haven't you noticed that when you become totally engrossed in something, you lose track of time? Why? Because you no longer focus upon it. You make fewer measurements of it. You're focused on something enjoyable and therefore, time passes more rapidly. Remember that you're in control. Direct your focus and consciously choose how to measure your time. If you're constantly checking your watch then time seems to crawl. Once again, your experience of time is controlled by your focus. How do you define your use of time? Are you spending it, wasting it, or killing it? It's been said that "killing time is not murder; it's suicide."

2. A MATTER OF IMPORTANCE

The third, and perhaps the most critical distinction of all, is an understanding how urgency and importance control your decisions about what to do with your time, and therefore your level of personal fulfillment. What do I mean? Let me ask you this: Have you ever worked your tail off, completely every single thing on your
"to do " list, but at the end of the day still felt unfulfilled? That's because you did everything that was urgent and demanded your attention in the moment, but you didn't do what was important- the things that would make a difference long-term. Conversely, have you ever had days when you got only a few things done but at the end felt that this was a day that had really mattered? These are the days when you're focused on what's important rather than what urgently needed your attention.
Urgency seems to control our lives. The phone rings and we are doing something important, but we "have to " pick it up. After all what if we missed out on something? This is a classic example of handling what's urgent-after all, you might miss out on a high-powered phone conversation with a computerized surveyor! On the other hand we buy a book that we know can make a major difference in our lives, yet put off reading it time and again because we just can't squeeze it in between opening the mail, filling the gas tank, and watching the news on TV. The only way to truly master your time is to organize your schedule each day to spend the majority of it doing things that are important rather than urgent.

3 . SAVE YOURSELF YEARS

The most powerful way I have learned to compress time is to learn through other people's experience. We can never truly master time as long as our primary strategy for learning and mastering our world is based upon trial and error. Modeling those who have already succeeded can save you years of pain. This is why I am a voracious reader and a committed student of tapes and seminars. I have always seen these experiences as necessities, not as accessories, and they have given me the wisdom of decades of experience and the success that results from it. I challenge you to learn from other people's experiences as often as you can, and to utilize whatever you learn.

"We have time enough if we will but use it alright." -
JOHANN WOLFGANG VON GOETHE

Today's Assignment:

1. Throughout this day, begin to explore changing time frames. Whenever you're feeling the pressures of the present, stop and think about the future in ways that are empowering. For example, think of goals that compel you, and become fully associated to them. Visualize the image, listen to it, step into it and notice how it feels.
Put yourself back into the midst of a treasured memory; your first kiss, the birth of your child, a special moment with a friend. The more you develop you capability to quickly change time frames, the greater your level of freedom and the range of emotions you will be able to create within a moment's notice. Do this enough until you truly know you can use this change in focus to instantly change your state.

2. Learn to deliberately distort time. For something that normally takes a long time to complete, add another component that will not only speed up your perception of time, but also allow you to accomplish two things at once. For example, when I'm running, I'll don a pair of headphones and listen to my favorite music. Or I'll watch the news or make phone calls while I am on my Stairmaster. This means I'll never have an excuse not to exercise, not to do what's important; working out and returning my calls.

3. Write a 'to do' list that prioritizes according to importance instead of urgency. Instead of writing down zillions of things to do and feeling like a failure at the end of the day, focus on what's most important for you to accomplish.


Sushant-passion

[Anup'da]

gr8 sushant, as your title goes , it's the best idea to live life with passion than sheer desperation, gr8 job, get goin!!!

anup'da
7th batch, kmc

Listening Power
By: Brian Tracy

The art of good conversation centers very much on your ability to ask questions and to listen attentively to the answers. You can lace the conversation with your insights, ideas, and opinions, but you perfect the art and skill of conversation by perfecting the art and skill of asking good, well-worded questions that direct the conversation and give other people an opportunity to express themselves.

Ask Open Ended Questions

Ask open-ended questions that cannot be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.” Open-ended questions encourage the speaker to expand on his thoughts and comments. And one question will lead to another. You can ask open-ended questions almost endlessly, drawing out of the other person everything that he or she has to say on a particular subject.

Be Content to Listen

In order to be an excellent conversationalist, you must resist the urge to dominate the discussion. The very best conversationalists seem to be low-key, easy-going, cheerful, and genuinely interested in the other person. They seem to be quite content to listen when other people are talking and they make their own contributions to the dialogue rather short and to the point.

Share the Opportunity to Talk

In fact, good conversation has an easy ebb and flow, like the tide coming in and going out. Whether it is between two people or among several, the conversation should shift back and forth, with each person getting an opportunity to talk. Conversation in this sense is like a ball that is tossed from person to person, with no one holding on to it for very long.

If you feel that you have been talking for too long, you should stop and ask a question of someone in the group. You will be tossing the conversational ball and giving that individual an opportunity to converse.

Learn to Listen Well

Listening is the most important of all skills for successful conversation. Many people are very poor listeners. Since everyone enjoys talking, it takes a real effort to practice the fundamentals of excellent listening and to make them a habit.

Action Exercises

Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.

First, make a habit of asking good, open-ended questions of others in every conversation and in response to problems or difficulties. This shows interest and increases your understanding.

Second, take a deep breath, relax and let the other person talk more. Practice over and over until you become an excellent listener.

Sushant-passion

[bishnurath]

i want to read everythin that sushant has posted here
but i know now why we fail to take action
its b coz the internet is too expensive in pokhara..................

sorry.
i dont mean to take this thread lightly
sushant u hav flooded this thread with so much of info that i m hardly able to take it all
i ve gone thru some of them nd all r inspiring, or at leat they address some or other of my interest.
u must hav had a really great time going thru all these materials(i envy)
keep it up
nd keep enlightening us

[Hero]

what is the problem afterall?

[bajia]

Too much but still worth informations ,txs for ur informations.
to my knowledge ,heart is nowhere involved in thinking or taking action,pls u r medico ,yes emotions or whatever u meant the magic of heart ,u should control it by logical thinking,NAN LAI KABUMA RAKHNUPARYO.
lack of knowledge &confidence which primarily is affected by the environment where we grow r the main factors.
and MANUSYAM LAJAM TYAGATI ,BIJAYA SARBATRAM BHABATI hoina ta

The Subtlety of Language by Jim Rohn

I have found that sometimes the subtle difference in our attitude, which of course can make a major difference in our future, can be as simple as the language we use. The difference in even how you talk to yourself or others. Consciously making a decision to quit saying what you don't want and to start saying what you do want. I call that faith. Believing the best, hoping for the best and moving toward the best.

A few examples could be, instead of saying "What if somebody doesn't respond" you start saying, "What if they do respond?" Instead of saying "What if someone says no?" You say, "What if they say yes?" Instead of "What if they start and quit?" say, "What if they start and stay?" or "What if it doesn't work out?" You say, "What if it does work out?" and the list goes on and on.

I found that when you start thinking and saying what you really want then your mind automatically shifts and pulls you in that direction. And sometimes it can be that simple, just a little twist in vocabulary that illustrates your attitude and philosophy.

Our language can also affect how others perform and behave around us. A teenager says to a parent, "I need $10." And if the parents learn to say, "No comprende. That kind of language doesn't work here. We've got plenty of money, but that's not how you get $10." Then you teach your teenager how to ask, "How can I earn $10?"

That is the magic of words. There is plenty of money here. There is money for everybody, but you just have to learn the magic words to get them. For everything you could possibly want. If you just learn the philosophy. How could I earn $10? Because you can't go to the soil and say, "Give me a harvest." You know the soil smiles and says, "Who is this clown that brings me his need and brings me no seed." And if you said to the soil, "I've got this seed and if I planted it, would you work while I sleep?" And the soil says, "No problem. Give me the seed. Go to sleep and I'll be working while you're sleeping."

If you just understand these simple principles, teaching them to a teenager (or adult) is sometimes just a matter of language. It's like an investment account instead of a savings account. Simple language, but so important. It is easy to stumble through almost a lifetime and not learn some of these simplicities. Then you have to put up with all the lack and all the challenges that don't work out simply from not reading the book, not listening to the tape, not sitting in the class, not studying your language and not being willing to search so you can then find.

But here is the great news. You can start this process anytime. For me it was at age 25. At 25 I'm broke. Six years later I'm a millionaire. Somebody says, "What kind of revolution, what kind of change, what kind of thinking, what kind of magic had to happen? Was it you?" And I say, "No. Any person, any six years, 36 to 42, 50 to 56. Whatever six years; whatever few years you go on an intensive, accelerated personal development curve, learning curve, application curve, and learning the disciplines. Now, it might not take the same amount of time, but I'm telling you the same changes and the same rewards in some different fashion are available for those who pay that six year price. And you might find that whether it's in the beginning to help get you started, or in the middle to keep you on track, that your language can have a great impact on your attitude, actions and results.

Remember to live with PaSSioN
Sushant

Hi ,
today is janaipurnima,and every brothers and sisters of this xenomed family deserve to be very very and very happy .Here, is a small gift of happiness from me to everyone reading this..............

You Deserve to Be Happy
By: Brian Tracy

Achieving your own happiness is the best measure of how well you are living your life and enjoying your relationships. You can learn how to be happier and more fulfilled in everything you do.

Everyone is Different

Happiness in life is like a smorgasbord. If 100 people went to a smorgasbord and each put food on their plate in the quantity and mix that each felt would be most pleasing to him, every plate would be different. Even a husband and wife would go up to the smorgasbord and come back with plates that looked completely different. Happiness is the same way. Each person requires a particular combination of those ingredients to feel the very best about himself or herself.

Listen to Your Heart

And your mix is changing continually. If you went to the same smorgasbord every day for a year, you probably would come back with a different plateful of food each time. Each day-sometimes each hour-only you can tell what it takes to make you happy. Therefore, the only way to judge whether a job, a relationship, an investment, or any decision, is right for you is to get in touch with your feelings and listen to your heart.

Be True to Yourself

You’re true to yourself only when you follow your inner light, when you listen to what Ralph Waldo Emerson called the “still, small voice within.” You’re being the very best person you can be only when you have the courage and the fortitude to allow your definition of happiness, whatever it may be, to be the guiding light of every part of your life.

There Are No Limits

A very important point on the subject of happiness is whether or not you feel that you “deserve” to be happy.

Accept the notion that you deserve all the happiness you can honestly attain through the application of your talents and abilities. The more you like and respect yourself, the more deserving you will feel of the good things in life. And the more deserving you feel, the more likely you will attain and hold on to the happiness you are working toward.

Make Happiness Your Key Measure

You should make happiness the organizing principle of your life. Compare every possible action and decision you make against your standard of happiness to see whether that action would make you happier or unhappier. Soon, you will discover that almost all of the problems in your life come from choices that you have made - or are currently making - that do not contribute to your happiness.

Pay the Price

Of course, there are countless times when you will have to do little things that don’t make you happy along the way toward those larger things that make you very happy indeed. We call this paying the price of success in advance. You must pay your dues.
Sometimes these interim steps don’t make you happy directly, but the happiness you achieve from attaining your goal will be so great that it totally overwhelms the temporary inconveniences and dissatisfactions you have to endure in order to get there.

Action Exercises

Here are three steps you can take immediately to put these ideas into action.

First, accept that you deserve all the joy and happiness you can possibly achieve through your own efforts.

Second, make your own happiness the chief organizing principle of your life and judge everything against that standard.

Third, be willing to work hard and pay the price for the satisfaction and rewards you desire. Always go the extra mile and your success will be assured.


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