No women, no sex (& no marriage)
Posted 17-03-2008 at 08:53 AM by Nature
Updated 30-03-2008 at 09:53 AM by Nature (correction of spelling)
Updated 30-03-2008 at 09:53 AM by Nature (correction of spelling)
NO WOMEN, NO SEX (&NO MARRIAGE)
(In case of heterosexual man)
Women are the cause of so many things in this world. We have been reading in the history books, so many wars were fought because of women, so many emperors and their empire fell down because of women. Like wise we know many great poet, philosopher, literate, writers also gain their success because of women. And we have been hearing the cliche–‘behind every successful man there is hand of women’ and many doesn’t say this which is equally true – behind the failure of most of the man also there might be hand of women.
I read ‘The Katmandu post’ regularly, there is one gossip column in its ‘City post’ edition, in which we can read candid talk with some celebrity and their thought, idea, view to many things. In that column one question which the interviewer asks regularly to its celebrity is – ‘what does man wants? And what does women wants?’ most of them answers man want sex.
Recent issue of the city post had Robin Tamang for that column, from the band ‘The Robin and The New Revolution’. He answered to same question like this, “man wants sex, sex and sex” man wants sex all the time. And the more older issue of it had the Shivani Sing Tharu, a popular VJ & model , also answered to this question, ‘man wants sex from women all the time’.
While to the question what does woman wants from man, many participants of this column answered ‘women wants care, love, money, attention etc.’ But to the question of what does man wants, most of its participants answered, man wants sex and beautiful wife. Not only in this particular column of ‘ the city post’ if u read similar gossip column on the various paper and internet magazine , u will read the same answer most of the time.
I also think, it is true that most of the man, if not all of them wants sex from women mostly than any other things. Still, a large numbers of men from our society take women as the means of sex only, which is very incorrect. We need to raise public awareness about gender equalities in our society.
I have found from my experience till this age, most of the man’s mind is filled with sex and women all the time. They talk most of the time with their friends about sex and women only. When I was child, in which time I was in my school, at that time also my friends used to talk about sex and girls all the time and used to show their interest towards it. At that time, I used to think that, the more intellectual person like doctors, engineer, professor, journalist etc doesn’t take such things in their mind. But after becoming doctor my self having frequented with many person of so called high profile professionals, my beliefs proved to be wrong. I found, even the consultant and professor, whom we respect in our hospital, also talk about and seems eager to talk about sex and women, (not inside the hospital but during informal chatting and during frequent cocktail party, which most of the time are sponsored by certain pharmaceutical company to promote their brand**. I mean man prefer to talk in this issue even though we could talk on many more other issue. I don’t mean they shouldn’t talk it at all. As we all know, sex is our biological necessities and for every gender, their opposite sex attracts them, except in the case of homosexual and lesbians.
So, I can say that man’s mind most of the time revolve around ‘sex and women’. How you see it?, the professors giving good marks to girls while giving less marks to equally competent and good boys and how you see the medical officers and even some consultant in the ward giving more attention to the girls on bedside teaching and giving more chance to learn clinical procedure to the girls.
I have read and most of u have also read that when man or women get sexually attracted to its collogue, co-worker or student or juniors, he/she turn his desire to more socially acceptable behaviors subconsciously and be close to him/her trying to becoming his/ her mentor, well wisher or sympathizer and offer help to him/ her most of the time, which we called sublimation, one of the example of defense mechanism in psychiatry. Isn’t this also associated with sex? Most of the time, this defense mechanism is exhibited by the man.
I have seen many of my friends connecting every issue to the sex and women most of the time. I have also seen many guys who married in their early age just for the sex. Recently, I met one guy, who was marred at the age of 19, when I requested him to tell very honestly for what cause he married at that age, he answered, it was more for sex than other things.
I thought to myself many times, why people need to marry? Can’t we live without marrying for the whole life? After thinking much, I came to the conclusion that most of us marry particularly for the two reasons. One reason is to fulfill our physical necessities i.e. sex and another reason to get company for the hard time especially when we become old. I know at old age, a loving, caring and trusty partner worth a lot. Studies have shown that in comparison to the peoples who live with family, the peoples who live alone have more liability to be substance abuser and suffer from mental illness, which make me to think much regarding my thought of not to get married.
You may wonder, why I am writing on such topics, where the word sex is still a taboo in our society and many of us hesitate to discuss it openly, though we take it in our mind most of the time. I think, talking about sex and discussing its various aspects is not bad thing, but we should talk it in decent manner, we should not be vulgar while discussing about it. I have heard a lot about the great philosopher/ saint ‘Osho’. Still, I have not got chance to read his books or listen his speech but by reading in the paper and other media , I knew that Osho advocate about expressing feelings of sex outside rather than keeping it inside and disrupting your state of mind. I have also heard other follower of Osho saying, feelings of women and sex inside people’s mind have killed a lot of their productive time.
I am writing this because I myself confused about whether to get marry or not? Actually, I don’t want to get marry, I want to live alone and free. Because I am a sort of freaky guy, I don’t want to stay bounded by anything (except moral bounding). I want to live my life in my own ways; I want complete freedom to myself. I don’t want to live mingling and jingling with all sorts of personal and family affairs. But, is that possible? Can I stay alone for my whole life? I think I can. Even if my analysis to the need of marriage is correct also I can live alone for the life. The need of marriage in our modern society has been slowly fading. Now a days, unlike in old days, it is not necessary to get married to fulfilled physical and social necessities.
Let us return to the topic of this post ‘No women, no sex (& no marriage)’. Can we live without thinking about women and sex? As Specialists in this field say that sex is like air and water to the human being. It is the gift of nature and it is not bad thing to have it in our mind. It is our biological need like air, water and food.
If it is so natural and biological necessities and we can’t live without thinking sex then we can’t live without thinking women also. Then, if u can’t live without women and sex, can u live without marrying? Aren’t women, sex, and marriage interrelated? Could we be able to cope our family and social pressure? And could we be able to resist our biological need and cultural value? I think, At least in the context of our Nepalese society, it will be very difficult. So, I am confused! I don’t want to get marry but can I live ignoring and not caring all the facts associated with it?
Well, at the end, like Bob Marley sang ‘No woman, no cry’ I also say ‘No women, no sex (& marriage). I still stand with this phrase ‘No women, no sex & no marriage’, because at least for the heterosexual man, if there would have been no women there would not have been sex and if there would have been no women there would not have been marriage too(in the case of heterosexual man).
(In case of heterosexual man)
Women are the cause of so many things in this world. We have been reading in the history books, so many wars were fought because of women, so many emperors and their empire fell down because of women. Like wise we know many great poet, philosopher, literate, writers also gain their success because of women. And we have been hearing the cliche–‘behind every successful man there is hand of women’ and many doesn’t say this which is equally true – behind the failure of most of the man also there might be hand of women.
I read ‘The Katmandu post’ regularly, there is one gossip column in its ‘City post’ edition, in which we can read candid talk with some celebrity and their thought, idea, view to many things. In that column one question which the interviewer asks regularly to its celebrity is – ‘what does man wants? And what does women wants?’ most of them answers man want sex.
Recent issue of the city post had Robin Tamang for that column, from the band ‘The Robin and The New Revolution’. He answered to same question like this, “man wants sex, sex and sex” man wants sex all the time. And the more older issue of it had the Shivani Sing Tharu, a popular VJ & model , also answered to this question, ‘man wants sex from women all the time’.
While to the question what does woman wants from man, many participants of this column answered ‘women wants care, love, money, attention etc.’ But to the question of what does man wants, most of its participants answered, man wants sex and beautiful wife. Not only in this particular column of ‘ the city post’ if u read similar gossip column on the various paper and internet magazine , u will read the same answer most of the time.
I also think, it is true that most of the man, if not all of them wants sex from women mostly than any other things. Still, a large numbers of men from our society take women as the means of sex only, which is very incorrect. We need to raise public awareness about gender equalities in our society.
I have found from my experience till this age, most of the man’s mind is filled with sex and women all the time. They talk most of the time with their friends about sex and women only. When I was child, in which time I was in my school, at that time also my friends used to talk about sex and girls all the time and used to show their interest towards it. At that time, I used to think that, the more intellectual person like doctors, engineer, professor, journalist etc doesn’t take such things in their mind. But after becoming doctor my self having frequented with many person of so called high profile professionals, my beliefs proved to be wrong. I found, even the consultant and professor, whom we respect in our hospital, also talk about and seems eager to talk about sex and women, (not inside the hospital but during informal chatting and during frequent cocktail party, which most of the time are sponsored by certain pharmaceutical company to promote their brand**. I mean man prefer to talk in this issue even though we could talk on many more other issue. I don’t mean they shouldn’t talk it at all. As we all know, sex is our biological necessities and for every gender, their opposite sex attracts them, except in the case of homosexual and lesbians.
So, I can say that man’s mind most of the time revolve around ‘sex and women’. How you see it?, the professors giving good marks to girls while giving less marks to equally competent and good boys and how you see the medical officers and even some consultant in the ward giving more attention to the girls on bedside teaching and giving more chance to learn clinical procedure to the girls.
I have read and most of u have also read that when man or women get sexually attracted to its collogue, co-worker or student or juniors, he/she turn his desire to more socially acceptable behaviors subconsciously and be close to him/her trying to becoming his/ her mentor, well wisher or sympathizer and offer help to him/ her most of the time, which we called sublimation, one of the example of defense mechanism in psychiatry. Isn’t this also associated with sex? Most of the time, this defense mechanism is exhibited by the man.
I have seen many of my friends connecting every issue to the sex and women most of the time. I have also seen many guys who married in their early age just for the sex. Recently, I met one guy, who was marred at the age of 19, when I requested him to tell very honestly for what cause he married at that age, he answered, it was more for sex than other things.
I thought to myself many times, why people need to marry? Can’t we live without marrying for the whole life? After thinking much, I came to the conclusion that most of us marry particularly for the two reasons. One reason is to fulfill our physical necessities i.e. sex and another reason to get company for the hard time especially when we become old. I know at old age, a loving, caring and trusty partner worth a lot. Studies have shown that in comparison to the peoples who live with family, the peoples who live alone have more liability to be substance abuser and suffer from mental illness, which make me to think much regarding my thought of not to get married.
You may wonder, why I am writing on such topics, where the word sex is still a taboo in our society and many of us hesitate to discuss it openly, though we take it in our mind most of the time. I think, talking about sex and discussing its various aspects is not bad thing, but we should talk it in decent manner, we should not be vulgar while discussing about it. I have heard a lot about the great philosopher/ saint ‘Osho’. Still, I have not got chance to read his books or listen his speech but by reading in the paper and other media , I knew that Osho advocate about expressing feelings of sex outside rather than keeping it inside and disrupting your state of mind. I have also heard other follower of Osho saying, feelings of women and sex inside people’s mind have killed a lot of their productive time.
I am writing this because I myself confused about whether to get marry or not? Actually, I don’t want to get marry, I want to live alone and free. Because I am a sort of freaky guy, I don’t want to stay bounded by anything (except moral bounding). I want to live my life in my own ways; I want complete freedom to myself. I don’t want to live mingling and jingling with all sorts of personal and family affairs. But, is that possible? Can I stay alone for my whole life? I think I can. Even if my analysis to the need of marriage is correct also I can live alone for the life. The need of marriage in our modern society has been slowly fading. Now a days, unlike in old days, it is not necessary to get married to fulfilled physical and social necessities.
Let us return to the topic of this post ‘No women, no sex (& no marriage)’. Can we live without thinking about women and sex? As Specialists in this field say that sex is like air and water to the human being. It is the gift of nature and it is not bad thing to have it in our mind. It is our biological need like air, water and food.
If it is so natural and biological necessities and we can’t live without thinking sex then we can’t live without thinking women also. Then, if u can’t live without women and sex, can u live without marrying? Aren’t women, sex, and marriage interrelated? Could we be able to cope our family and social pressure? And could we be able to resist our biological need and cultural value? I think, At least in the context of our Nepalese society, it will be very difficult. So, I am confused! I don’t want to get marry but can I live ignoring and not caring all the facts associated with it?
Well, at the end, like Bob Marley sang ‘No woman, no cry’ I also say ‘No women, no sex (& marriage). I still stand with this phrase ‘No women, no sex & no marriage’, because at least for the heterosexual man, if there would have been no women there would not have been sex and if there would have been no women there would not have been marriage too(in the case of heterosexual man).
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 |  Old topic - New Approach !!!Definitely, Sex - is as old as origin of living beings. Reproduction - the important characteristics of living world is inherently related to sex. Marriage - as old as civilization and a symbolic and accepted form of biological entity as well as necessity. It is really interesting to read your musing over primarily sex with reference to your personal arguement and believe Quote:
I am writing this because I myself confused about whether to get marry or not? Actually, I don’t want to get marry, I want to live alone and free. Because I am a sort of freaky guy, I don’t want to stay bounded by anything (except moral bounding). I want to live my life in my own ways; I want complete freedom to myself. I don’t want to live mingling and jingling with all sorts of personal and family affairs. But, is that possible? Can I stay alone for my whole life? I think I can. Even if my analysis to the need of marriage is correct also I can live alone for the life. The need of marriage in our modern society has been slowly fading. Now a day, unlike in old days, it is not necessary to get married to fulfilled physical and social necessities.
Great! Best wishes, mati |
Posted 17-03-2008 at 02:41 PM by Mati  |
| | I regularly read the articles by Nature. I reallly enjoy his articles very much. His articles/writings etc are really professional and once u start u cant stop without finishing it. I rarely read the articles/writings on the Net/computer.....But I cant stop myself reading the whole articles if it is posted by Nature. This time also,as correctly said by Mati Old topic - New Approach !!!,I liked the way he has presented this issue.He has got a god gifted super powwer of writing. Hope to read more from Nature. My best wishes to Nature!!!   |
| Posted 18-03-2008 at 05:01 AM by SPRimal |
| |   YES Freud is right! But still SEX is not the only thing what Men want. Yes! there's a relation among sex, marriage & women indeed. What I think is; we talk about women, because they are totally different than us (physically, emotionally & mentally) so we just get attracted to that different gender, and so do women. They talk about men too, because we are different from them. And behind all these attractions & talks, blame those gonads & hormones. Afterall women comes in so many forms; it's just great to have them in our lives with so many characters, such a variety.. don't you think, it's great to have such variety in life with different roles of women, with different feelings? Regarding sex; ah it's a taboo to talk about it in our society, but then also looking to other societies, one can see that, sex has been performed even before marriage. so it's not necessary to get married to have sex, until & unless you think pre-marital sex is fine! Then talking about marriage, I don't think it's not only about Sex & living happily together and sort of helping each other in need. Looking marriage as a tradition, there's many reasons to get married. In one way or other it gets connected to sex though but I don't think our tradition wants us to marry to obtain the license to have pleasure. Life's long, destination unknown, so it's upto you to get married or not but what I see is Sex is not everything. And as a Man, I think I do want something else from Sex. Hmm... I want.. yes something else from SEX (well let that City Post ask me..  )Anyway it was nice post and made my brain run pretty much, thinking and analyzing. |
| Posted 23-03-2008 at 10:55 AM by psychotic Updated 23-03-2008 at 11:01 AM by psychotic |
| |  it depends up on ur strength to endure n how focused u r regarding that. woman brings both joys n pain in life but we don't hate rose because of its thorns do we? I find woman beautiful in all the aspect i see.either its their heart full of love, or their innocence act or even the architect of their body.there is no point to blame. there is certainly so vast difference between love n sex. but what i mean is that,dont forget to open the door towards love when u close door for sex. i believe too much freedom is like a tight chains which makes us captives within. |
| Posted 27-03-2008 at 08:39 AM by giriaashish |
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