Girls - Dream or Real World

Today, I invite you girls to make a choice. How you choose will determine how successful you'll be in the dating world. You must select living in the DREAM WORLD or the REAL WORLD. You cannot say "it depends" or "I'll select DREAM WORLD here and REAL WORLD there". It's all-or-none.

DREAM WORLD: A guy will love me for who I am.
REAL WORLD: I have to modify my character, within reason, to appeal to a guy.

DREAM WORLD: He must change for me.
REAL WORLD: We both must change for each other.

DREAM WORLD: A guy will have to prove himself worthy for me.
REAL WORLD: I must prove I'm worthy for him.

DREAM WORLD: He will find me.
REAL WORLD: I need to find him.

DREAM WORLD: Guys should stop being so childish, perverted and shallow.
REAL WORLD: Guys will always be guys.

DREAM WORLD: I want complete equality in my relationship.
REAL WORLD: Equality do not exist...never has and never will.

DREAM WORLD: Rejection is just horrible and something to avoid at all cost.
REAL WORLD: If I don't get rejected much, it means I haven't taken enough risk.

DREAM WORLD: I can have everything...family, friends, education, marriage, money, career...EVERYTHING!
REAL WORLD: I cannot have everything and must select the lesser of two evils.

DREAM WORLD: If it's meant to be, it's meant to be
REAL WORLD: Most things happen because of conscious effort.

DREAM WORLD: He pursues me because he thinks I'm the perfect girl.
REAL WORLD: He pursues me because I'm one of 35 girls he's interested at this time.

DREAM WORLD: Love is always romantic with a happy ending.
REAL WORLD: Love is mostly crap with some fleeting moments of happiness.

DREAM WORLD: I can become fat/ugly and he'll still love me.
REAL WORLD: I have to maintain my physical condition.

DREAM WORLD: Love is random, like a cupid shooting arrows blindly.
REAL WORLD: Love occurs when I take an initiative.

DREAM WORLD: If I complain about gender unfairness, people will listen and care.
REAL WORLD: If I complain about gender unfairness, it will mostly do no good.

DREAM WORLD: I want nothing but the perfect guy. I deserve it!
REAL WORLD: I must compromise some standards as perfect people do not exist.

DREAM WORLD: If I suffer from injustice and disrespect, I must always stand and fight.
REAL WORLD: Even if I suffer from injustice and disrespect, some things just aren't worth fighting for.

DREAM WORLD: What is right and fair will always prevail.
REAL WORLD: Life is never fair.

DREAM WORLD: JSBach is a male chauvinist pig and should STFU.
REAL WORLD: All guys and girls are chauvinistic people who harbor shallow gender stereotypes.


The choice is simple. Your odds of success with guys will increase if you choose the REAL WORLD. If remaining single is your thing or you're just not ready for dating, the DREAM WORLD is for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Why will you be more successful with guys in the REAL WORLD? Because living in the REAL WORLD, you accept that life is unfair and that you must take responsibility for your actions and failures. In the REAL WORLD, you also enjoy a sense of empowerment -- that you can make things happen, not rely on fate or the actions of others. In short, it means you're a person of action and logic, not reaction and superstition. And this is why you'll be more successful with guys.

There is nothing wrong with the DREAM WORLD. It's a prettier, fairer and warmer place. If I can live my life in my dreams, I'd do it. Unfortunately, the alarm clock eventually goes off and we must live our lives in this crummy corrupt world and find a way to fit in.

So which world do you choose?

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Why are many girls so resistant to change? It's because she faces her toughest enemy: herself. Specifically, she faces her ego which renders her close-minded and resistant to change. I hear this ego speaking all the time. "I'll never change for a guy" or "be who you are and you'll find someone who accepts you". BULLSH-T! This is a women's ego speaking. I promise that nobody on Earth is so perfect that they leave no room for improvement. We all have to adapt to different people, situations and times. If you don't evolve, your competitors will.

This idea then begs the following question. What if the changes I'm suggesting are beyond your capabilities or that you'll turn into someone you're uncomfortable with? Of course, it's no fun suffering from self-alienation. But I'm not asking for you do to something bold like confess your feelings, ask him on a date or anything that entail much risk for rejection or humilation. Instead, it involves accepting that the unfair world, for you to live in the REAL WORLD and engage in a slight shift in attitudes and behavior. And to do this, you have to put your ego aside and conform to what guys want, not what you want. It's like being a good businessperson. Do you sell what your customers want? or do you sell what YOU want?

Once you find the ability to keep your ego in check, it's easy to be a great catch! I think you'd be surprised how easy it is to seduce a guy (and I'm not talking about sex). As long as you meet his physical standards and accept the REAL WORLD, you've already won a majority of the battle. The rest is a simple blueprint I've drawn in these twelve articles. Most girls don't know the ideas I've mentioned on this thread and fewer are willing to implement it. That means less competition for you!

Most guys are straight-forward and simplistic creatures when it comes to love. They don't change their minds, get PMS, act emotional and weird. They're like goldfish seeing food on the water's surface. When they see it, they predictiablty go straight after it. I guarentee it's easier for girls to deal with guys than for guys to deal with girls.

So if you aren't as successful with guys as you'd want to be, don't blame guys and don't complain about unfairness. Nothing is wrong with them. It's YOU who is screwing up. And it's probably because of two problems: 1) you don't know how to play the game and 2) your ego prevents you from playing the game. This thread will help with the first problem. The second problem is entirely up to you.