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sharad · **hell -** 11-05-2006, 05:14 AM

hi i am male 20 years old.Since i have received sense i am always attracted towards male and i too have liked some gals but i don't feel like having sex with gal just wanna have sexual relationship with guy.Is that i am a homosexual.I mantain myself look very normal as i fell shy for what i am.

please tell me do it have any kind treatment in any part of the world.I want to get married as others do and wanna have kids and wanna have family.Is this possible for me.Please i am really tensed about all this.

please be very very kind to me and try to help me out

sharad
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Doctor · 11:29 AM

Dear sharad,

Sex preference has been taken as perfectly noraml this days because no research or the study has proven that homosexuality is a disease.

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Definition
Not a psychiatric disorder
Causes
Consequences
Social consequences
Treatment?
Online Discussion Forum

I would request you to go through all the contents and the links, it will help you a lot.

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However some organization claim for the treatment you can get the info

Sex & Hormone Center
Surana Bhawan, 10, Lalita Park, opposite G K TVS Showroom, at Laxmi Nagar Crossing,
Laxmi Nagar, Vikas Marg, New Delhi - 92 (India)

How to Consult Them

Help and support for you

This page addresses various types of help and support for the Christian young person who experiences unwanted same-sex attraction.
A person who experiences some general confusion about their sexual identity may also find helpful support from some of the organizations listed in the third section:

support from the people you see on a regular basis
When some of the people whom you see on a daily or weekly basis know what you are dealing with, they can be supportive by providing general acceptance, openness and opportunities to talk about what's happening in your life. By sharing your story with friends, youth workers and family members, you are no longer carrying it alone.
Read through the following list and consider who might be supportive and accepting of you:

Friends
Family members
Youth pastors and youth workers at church.
Youth workers at school or university: Inter-School Christian Fellowship, IVCF, Youth for Christ and other similar organizations that work with youth may be quite understanding and can refer you to other resources.

If you're not sure who to tell and how to tell them, read our telling others article for helpful ideas.
A solid sense of belonging and community is also very beneficial. We say more about this in the article becoming real.

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support from others who understand what you are going through
You can get support from those who understand what you are going through by attending a support group in person or by participating in an online youth forum. This kind of support offers the opportunity to speak freely in a safe and confidential place and to be encouraged by hearing how others are dealing with their struggles. The following resources can provide this kind of support for you:
Finding a support group

Exodus Global Alliance is a worldwide inter-denominational network of Christian ministries that work with men and women who want to leave homosexuality. Many of its member ministries provide support groups which you might find helpful.
Search for local ministries and support groups:
Worldwide (exodusglobalalliance.org)
Canada: Ontario & Manitoba. Other Canadian provinces
United States
Other organizations such as Courage, Transforming Congregations and One by One may offer support groups of interest to you. See their full listings below.

Connecting to an online forum

Living Hope Youth Forum: This online discussion group is specifically for youth (25 and under) seeking to overcome (or helping those who are overcoming) same-sex attraction and behaviour.
Click here for the registration page: livehope.org.

Other web resources for youth

Materials in other languages: FreeToBeMe.com, a faith-neutral website offering alternatives to young people who experience unwanted same-sex attraction, has articles and resources in French, Spanish and Polish. The Courage website listed in the next section also has materials in other languages.
For friends who aren't Christians: www.freetobeme.com offers resources for those who struggle with same-sex attraction yet are not open to the Christian faith.

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help and support in seeking change
At some point, you may be ready to look at the root issues which influenced the development of your same-sex attraction. This can be difficult to do, and we encourage you to have good personal support in place as you begin.
Many people find it helpful to connect with an organization which specializes in working with those who experience unwanted same-sex attraction. Such organizations may offer counselling, support groups and other resources. They should provide help, clarity and resources in becoming the person you really want to be. They will also tell you about the love of God for you and about your true identity in Him, and will explain the process of healing and change.
Organizations that specifically work with people who experience unwanted same-sex attraction:

These are listed as a service to readers, and are not an endorsement of any particular organization.
It is up to you to determine whether the approach and services of any of these organizations are suitable for you.

Exodus Global Alliance is a worldwide, inter-denominational network of Christian ministries that work with men and women who want to leave homosexuality.
Worldwide website: exodusglobalalliance.org.
Website with list of youth resources: exodusyouth.net.
In North America: Exodus North America, P.O. Box 540119, Orlando, Florida 32854, U.S.A. Telephone: (407) 599-6872 or 1-888-264-0877 (toll-free). Fax: (407) 599-0011.
Courage provides spiritual support for men and women choosing to live chaste lives in accordance with the teachings of the Roman Catholic church instead of acting on their same-sex attractions.
Website and information about their online discussion groups: www.couragerc.net.
As well as English, some Spanish, French, Russion and Slovenian materials are available.
Courage, c/o Church of St. John the Baptist, 210 West 31st St., New York, NY 10001. Telephone: (212) 268-1010.
Transforming Congregations is a network of mainline churches (including United Methodist Churches) in the USA and Australia which believe homosexuals can change.
Information: transformingcong.org. Transforming Congregations, PO Box 580, Millsboro DE 19966, U.S.A. Phone 302-945-9650.
Powerful Change Ministry Group is a national fellowship of 11 Christian African-American led ministries whose goal is to advocate change for same-sex strugglers among people of color.
Website: witnessfortheworld.org.
Witness Ministries, Inc., PO Box 162953, Atlanta, GA 30321-2953, U.S.A. Telephone: 404-362-0505.
One By One is a network of Presbyterian Churches which affirm that those who deal with homosexual temptations are loved and that Christ can and does have power to change those who face such temptations.
Website: oneby1.org.
OneByOne, P.O. Box 10055, Rochester, NY 14610, U.S.A. Telephone: 716-482-1991.
Desert Stream ministers to the church by imparting healing, equipping the church, training pastors and leaders, developing small groups, and proclaiming to the church and to the world the life-transforming power of Jesus Christ. Desert Stream also has released numerous groups around the country that impart healing to those who struggle with sexual and relational brokenness. Living Waters, Cross Currents and the River are three of their programs offered in various cities and by various churches or organizations.
Website (find a local group): desertstream.org.
Homosexuals Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women, who through their common emotional experience, have chosen to help each other live in freedom from homosexuality. Has chapters across the U.S. (a few in Australia and Canada), and an online H.A. chapter.
Website: Homosexuals Anonymous
Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship Services, P.O. Box 7881, Reading, PA 19603 USA. Telephone: 610-921-0345.
NARTH, the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (narth.com), is an organization of psychologists, therapists and others who believe that change is possible and work with people wanting to leave homosexuality. Its members are from a variety of religious backgrounds. They may be able to refer you to a therapist in your city. NARTH, 16633 Ventura Blvd., Suite 1340, Encino CA 91436, U.S.A. Telephone: (818) 789-4440.
Counsellors: Counsellors and therapists have a wide range of ideas about homosexuality. Some work with people who want to accept their homosexuality; others work with people who are looking for ways out. You will need to carefully check out counsellors to see if they provide what you really want. Remember also that depending on their area of specialty, some counsellors will know very little about the range of choices that are available for you.

Some useful informations:

I think I might be gay because...

Questions and answers about homosexuality: A guide for youth

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Homosexuality - Organisations

The following organisations provide support and assistance to those wishing to leave the homosexual lifestyle as well as articles, personal stories and research. Most of them are based overseas.

For assistance and support in Australia, see Care and Counselling.
(NOTE: Links to Web sites not produced by SALT SHAKERS do not necessarily imply an endorsement by SALT SHAKERS of the contents of the sites.)

Exodus International
International organisation with many affiliated groups that assist those who want to leave the homosexual lifestyle.
Exodus South Pacific (Australia)
Provides support in Australia.
Stonewall Revisited
Testimonies, support group, a way out of homosexuality.
Genes and Homosexuality
This site provides information and articles from Neil and Briar Whitehead as well as details of their two books My Genes Made Me Do It and Craving for Love.
NARTH
Reparative therapy for those wanting to leave the homosexual lifestyle. Articles, testimonies, research. Dr Joe Nicolosi is a key member.
P.A.T.H. (Positive Alternatives to Homosexuality)
PATH describes themselves in this way... "PATH is a non-profit coalition of organizations that help people with unwanted same-sex attractions (SSA) realize their personal goals for change -- whether by developing their innate heterosexual potential or by embracing a lifestyle as a single, non-sexually active man or woman.

"Collectively, our organizations have worked with thousands of men, women and youth who are finding peace and fulfillment by resolving their SSA feelings in ways that are emotionally healing, gender-affirming, congruent with their deeply held values and beliefs, and supportive of their individual life goals."
Click here for this website.
Contains links to affiliated groups.
Mastering Life Ministries
Conducted by David Kyle Foster. Before his salvation in 1980, he lived a double life as a male prostitute and a successful film actor in Hollywood. David teaches God's saving and healing truth to both the lost and the church. He is the author of Sexual Healing: God's Plan for the Sanctification of Broken Lives.
Love in Action
Formed in 1973 by Frank Worthen who re-dedicated his life to Jesus Christ after 20 years pursuing homosexual behaviour. With a testimony tape and a newspaper ad, Frank gave a message seldom heard before, "There is a way out of homosexuality!"
Loving Homosexuals
A ministry that seeks to show Christians how to love homosexuals. Chad Thompson is a man who is "overcoming homosexual attractions", so he speaks from experience. He urges Christians to love homosexuals - knowing that God is the one who can change their heart.
Click here for his 'Introduction'.
Parakaleo
A ministry in London UK, which helps those involved in the transsexual lifestyle.
New Direction
On their website, they say they are "A pro-people organization offering Christian support to men and women choosing to leave homosexuality, and equipping the church to minister effectively and compassionately."
Christian Resources about Homosexuality and AIDS on the web
A list of more resources and organisations.

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sharad · **hell -** 16-05-2006, 04:33 AM

1.Is gay can be treated to straight?
2. Aren't people who say they've changed just pretending, or never gay in the first place?
3.If I feel I really am gay, does that mean I just have to learn to live with it and like it?

demon_dissector · 16-05-2006, 04:39 AM

there was a whole load of posts following the list of sites by DOCTOR which seems to have been deleted.

There's no cure for somone who's gay- it's not a disease!! It's just who you are-nature intended on you being that way.

People who've changed could possibly be confused about their sexual preferences or experimenting.

If you are gay, then you have to live with it. You can either be proud of it and come out with it in the society or live a hidden double life by being someone who you're not and trying to lead a "normal" and "conventional" life.

May be you should speak to someone in Nepal about it. I listed before the blue diamond society for people with different sexual preferences : http://www.bds.org.np/ there's a contact bit there, you should talk to someone about it, they might help you with your issues as they may have gone through a similar situation themselves.

RAAZ · 16-05-2006, 05:55 AM

BDS is a good option for you. I don't know much about it but I heard that it helps the gay people to get along with the society and find a future as they wish to have.